What to Do When Mom is Exhausted
April 6, 2022
Mercy Every Minute
Deborah Wuehler, TOS Senior Editor
Getting out of the Slump
How do I get out of this slump? I’ve lost the joy I once had. I’ve been so tired and worn out physically; I’m hungry spiritually; and things are frustrating or nagging me. Let’s look at these areas:
Take naps with the little ones. Get to bed at a reasonable time. Make sure phone use ends an hour before bed, or your mind will stay awake processing all that information before it can shut down. Go for a walk with the kids. Catch up on reading while you rest (free magazine app at TOSApps.com).
Clear your mind by writing down what’s nagging you. Take care of one item a day. Delegate. Take a day off to get things back in order. A little bit of daily organizing keeps things from piling up. If it’s too late, tackle the piles twenty minutes a day.
Are your children regularly disobeying or causing strife? Consistent daily training (not yelling or berating) goes a long way towards peace. Make “rule and reward” cards together and post them.
Cut out the bad carbs and eat more protein and veggies. Your body and mind will wake up. Most importantly, eat Godly bread every day. Find a prominent spot in the house to place a verse and meditate on it all day long. His Word satisfies like nothing else.
For example, let’s meditate on the following verse:
You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalms 16:11
1. You will show me the path of life: If I am lacking direction, I have probably begun to walk my own path. Only God is able show me the path for my life. I can read books or blogs, talk to friends, and purchase the right curriculum, but ultimately it is God alone who will show us His path.
2. In Your presence is fullness of joy: Nothing and no one else can bring me joy. I can look to other things or people but will only find it in the presence of the Lord. I can look for joy in material wealth, physical healing, close relationships, dreams fulfilled, or just the lack of chaos. But I will never find fullness until I am in His presence. It’s not about what comes to my life or leaves my life in order to have joy. It’s all about being in the presence of God and the presence of God in me!
3. At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore: I tend to seek pleasure away from closeness with God. I am prone to wander and look to earthly things or people. It is found at the right hand of God: very close to Him. A wandering heart will only find pain and loneliness and confusion. He is our pleasure in this life.
There’s no place I would rather be, and I will bring my kids there with me as I keep them Home. Where They Belong.
For more ideas on how to homeschool through exhaustion, check out these articles from The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine
Under Pressure: Peace for the Driven Homeschool Parent by Jeannie Fulbright
What To Do When You Are Nice and Crispy by Mary Hood Ph.D.
Saving the Shrinking Flame by Naomi Musch
Fight Exhaustion by Attending a Convention
Feeling tired and overwhelmed? Have you forgotten why you homeschool? Has your smile disappeared and your get up and go gotten up and gone?! Then you need to go to a homeschool convention—a live, in-person, event filled with homeschool moms and dads.
I don’t know if you’ve ever been to a big homeschool convention, but if you haven’t, you’ve missed out on a great resource. I know for some homeschool moms, it’s better than going to Disney World.
Not only can you get hands-on time with just about every kind of homeschool material imaginable and get pumped up by great speakers, but you get to rub shoulders with hundreds or even thousands of homeschoolers.
Some veteran homeschoolers state, “Yeah, but I don’t need that anymore.”
Baloney!! You sure do. In fact, you may need it even more. And even if you didn’t, there might be some homeschooler there who NEEDS YOU. I can’t tell you how many times my wife has been encouraged by another mother who happened to be in the nursing mother’s room, sitting at a concessions table, or standing in the same booth as my wife.
So GO!!!! Find a babysitter, and go!! I haven’t even talked about the possibility of some much-needed ‘date-time’ with your spouse. Which reminds me, Dad, you need to take the lead and insist that you and your wife attend an upcoming convention.
By the way, if I happen to be at your convention, make sure you stop by and say, “Hey.”
Need more convincing? Check out the classic homeschool book Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe. You’ll be glad you did.
About the author
Todd Wilson is a husband, dad, grandpa, writer, homeschool conference speaker, and former pastor. Todd’s humor and down to earth realness have made him a favorite speaker all across the country and a guest on Focus on the Family. As founder of The Familyman and The Smiling Homeschooler, his passion and mission are to remind moms and dads of what’s most important through weekly emails, podcasts, seminars, and books that encourage parents. Todd, and his wife Debbie, homeschool four of their eight children (the other four are homeschool graduates) in northern Indiana and travel America in the Familyman Mobile. You can read more at www.familymanweb.com.
Tired? Let the Lord Be Your Strength
So much of life feels like standing on the beach and feeling the sand pull out from under your feet as the tide recedes. Whenever I have tried to rely upon myself, God brings about situations and circumstances which remind me of my precarious foundation, my weakness … and He attempts to coax me once again to embrace it and find in it the real strength I’d been seeking all along.
Something I’m learning is that a strong woman is one who understands that she isn’t. She came to grips with that a long time ago (and continues to reconcile herself to it daily). And she stopped trying to be it all, do it all, have all the stuff, and accomplish all the admirable goals.
Sometimes it is strong to say no, strong to take a nap, strong to ask for help, and it’s stronger to throw chicken nuggets and frozen fries in the oven and be present, than to create that Pinterest-y masterpiece of a meal with no lingering memories to accompany it.
Strength is found in the quiet embracing of new mercies every morning, because seizing the day seems to be elusive … sort of like a weird game of Whack-a-Mole.
Strength is found in the fresh hope of forgiveness and the realization that God’s superabundance of grace—and the luxury with which it is bestowed upon us every day—will never, ever be exhausted.
All of these things I’ve mentioned are God’s ideas, not mine, which leads me to conclude that strength comes from spending time in His word, allowing the Spirit to reorder my thinking so that I’m not leaning on my own very limited, selfishly-skewed understanding. I think I’ll go do some more of that. Reading, that is.
About the author
Diane Heeney is a graduate of Bob Jones University, where she served on faculty for ten years. She has been Assistant to the Director of Advertising Sales at The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine since 2016. She’s homeschooled her three children over the course of the past 18 years, having graduated their two oldest. Diane, her husband Patrick, and their youngest child, Katie, reside in eastern Wyoming.
Pillar of Faith
Jodi Riddle – He Will Give You Rest
Galatians 6:9 “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”
Some days we get exhausted from the day-to-day work we do. Sometimes it is our own fault, and sometimes it’s just the way things are. Most of us wear many hats throughout the course of a week, or even a day: wife, mom, daughter, neighbor, nurse, chef, maid, taxi driver, referee, and encourager. Just reading the list can make one weary.
Jesus, however, gave us the remedy. He said in Matthew 11:28, ”Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Do you start your day going to the power source? Do you plug yourself into the charger God provides? He has given us His Word and promises to commune with us if just take the time to go to Him. Some may think they just can’t afford to spare any time reading their Bible or praying. But it’s quite the opposite. You can’t afford not to. He is your energy source. Put your faith in Him. He will give you rest.
About the author
Jodi started her journey with TOS in April 2016 and serves as the Operations Manager. She and her husband, Duane, have been married over 30 years and have spent over 20 years in the ministry. Along with being a pastor’s wife, she homeschooled her 3 (now grown) sons for 18 years and also taught in the private and public-school settings. Jodi enjoys teaching, playing the piano, and making cards. Her heart’s desire is to serve others and use her gifts to glorify the Lord.
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- Why Homeschool?
- The Cost of NOT Homeschooling
- Why The Teacher Should be YOU!
- Homeschooling through Hardship
- Homeschooling the Rebel
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