The Perfect Mama for Your Family
January 20, 2021
Fairest of Them All
Have I got a secret for you! Come closer . . . listen . . . ready? You ARE the perfect Mama for your family. That’s right! You really are.
Know why? Because you have discovered the “secret” to everlasting beauty, the key to being beautiful, the way to become the prettiest, fairest Mama in the land. Your children certainly think so. Have you seen the way they look at you? It’s really true, Mama.
You become more beautiful, day by day, as you move toward God. A.W. Tozer puts it this way in his book The Attributes of God: Deeper into the Father’s Heart: “All things as they move toward God are beautiful, and they are ugly as they move away from Him.”
How are you moving more toward the Lord today, Mama? Let The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine encourage you in your quest to become the perfect Mama for your precious family.
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And remember, Mama. . .
You love the Lord and you desire to draw closer to Him by the day. You read His Word so that you hear from Him, directly.
Are you perfect? No, of course not.
Do you confess your sins, get up, and try again day after day? Yes, you certainly try. It’s your heart to do so.
Your children see a Mama who is real, genuine, not a phony who pretends to be something she’s not. The Lord has blessed you, and you are becoming lovelier by the day. Keep walking, beautiful Mama. His hand is on your head.
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The Lord Knows Better
“Why? Oh, why . . . oh, why, Lord?” I prayed that afternoon. I was so frustrated. I was on pregnancy bedrest, trying to do school, trying to talk the kids through the chores, and trying to cope with feeling that my kids would be better off if someone, anyone else were their mother. I couldn’t do the things I thought they needed. I couldn’t cook for them, couldn’t take them to activities, couldn’t go outside with them.
But the Lord knew better than I did what they needed. I wanted them to have normal. He wanted them to have responsibility. I wanted them to be carefree. He wanted them to be compassionate. I wanted to take care of them. He wanted them to learn to take care of others.
I can see that clearly now, twenty years later. It wasn’t so easy at the time. That was a drastic situation, but I think sooner or later we all struggle with feeling inadequate to the task of mothering. You are not alone.
You really are not alone. God will walk through this with you. Parenting is important to Him. He calls Himself God the Father for a reason. If He cares that much, He won’t leave you alone, but He’ll help you and guide you through it.
The Lord chose you to be your children’s mama. You are the right mama for them and they are the right children for you. That doesn’t mean it won’t be hard sometimes. It’s a fallen world and we are all sinners.
How kind the Lord is to use these people we love so much to show us our need of Him. In mothering, we’ll see our own sin as we never have before. We’ll see every bit of selfishness that remains in us. We’ll be pushed to our limits and blow right past them because the Lord wants to conform us to His image. He wants us to repent and turn to Him. He wants us to learn to be like Him. How good He is to use such dear things to accomplish this!
So, yes, you’re the perfect mama for your family because a perfect God made you their mama, and He’ll give you the grace for the job! Here’s a free download that might help.
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Relax, Sweet Momma
“Her children rise up and call her blessed.” ~Proverbs 31:28
DO YOU WONDER?
You love your children fiercely. If they were in danger, you’d surrender your life to save them.
And yet. . .
In the dailiness of life, you often fail them:
- You say, “No,” when you should say, “Yes.”
- You raise your voice when a gentle answer is needed.
- You let the day end on a sour note just thankful to get them in bed.
And so you wonder, are you really cut out for this mother stuff?
YOU’RE NOT ALONE.
If you relate to any of those struggles, rest assured—you’re not alone.
Although serene family scenes posted on social media create the illusion of moms who have it all together, don’t be fooled.
Life is messy.
For all of us.
YOU WERE HAND-PICKED FOR YOUR FAMILY.
Like so many mothers, I know what it’s like to experience each one of those failures. They can make a momma cry.
But I’ve learned an important lesson.
“We are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” ~Ephesians 2:10
It’s not an accident that you’re the momma of your children. You were hand-picked for the job by the One Who knows you best.
YOU ARE A WORK IN PROGRESS.
And if you’ve asked Him to be your Savior, He has begun a good work in you that He will bring to completion (Philippians 1:6).
If you let Him, He will. . .
- Help you grow into the momma you long to be.
- Help you become patient, kind, not jealous or boastful or proud.
- Help you become slow to anger and quick to forgive.
When you are weak, you can discover His strength and His grace.
In the midst of your failures, you can experience His tender, merciful love.
When that love washes over you, let your heart soften toward the frailty and failures of those around you—including those sweet children who, someday, just may rise up and call you blessed.
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|Surprised by Jesus, Stacy went from an unmarried, childless, 30-something career woman to a Christ-following wife of 28+ years with two sons homeschooled K-12. She battled fear and overwhelm but survived and thrived. Author of 10+ books—including the award-winning Philosophy Adventure—she loves to equip and encourage homeschool families. Visit her at HomeschoolAdventure.com.|
Pillar of Hope: Just What Your Child Needs
You’re not perfect, but you are the perfect Mama for your family. Homeschooling makes us focus on our imperfections and inadequacies, especially when our children are struggling or excelling. Should we do more? Something different? We ask ourselves if we can challenge them enough or if a professional could do better.
We wonder whether our discipline is enough, too much, or all wrong. We criticize our strengths when our children put us up against their strong will. We lament our weaknesses when our children do not seem able or willing to do what we want them to do. And yet, God gave each child to you because you are just what that child needs to become all that God wants him or her to be. That child is also what you need to help you grow in dependence upon God and your walk of trust and obedience. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” This is never more true than in the home.
I had to separate my mothering from my teaching. Keeping that balance was hard. When the books were put away for the day, I could just be Mom—the one who delighted in her children, listened to their hearts, rejoiced in their triumphs, and soothed their crying. At our home we often said, “Character over curriculum.” If the books needed to be put aside in the middle of the day so that we could deal with life issues, then so be it. Life was more important.
We need not power or splendor,
Wide hall or lordly dome;
The good, the true, the tender,
These form the wealth of home.
-Sarah J. Hale
Are you the perfect mom for your family? God gave these children to you; so your job is to be the mom they need—imperfections and all. Annie Sullivan reminds us, “Children require guidance and sympathy far more than instruction.” What subjects you did or did not teach well will not impact your child’s life as much as your love, support, listening, guidance, wisdom, prayers, and laughter.
|Dara Halydier is a Bible teacher, a conference speaker, a mentor, author, mom to five boys and grandma of eight. She is the director of Abiding Truth Ministry. Dara teaches with humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she reaches out to encourage and equip the next generation.|
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