Dealing with "Negative Nellie"

/ / Encouragement

Dealing with negative family members is kind of a given when you homeschool. I mean, who doesn’t have an “Aunt Nellie,” who, at every Christmas gathering, asks, “So how much longer are you going to homeschool? You certainly aren’t going to do it in high school , are you?”

Now you could pray that God would take Aunt Nellie “home” before your kids get to the high school years, fake a cold and miss the next 20 Christmases, or wear dark glasses and a fake mustache and hope she doesn’t recognize you, but that would be too easy.

Instead, you need to take the “Aunt Nellie by the horns” and stand firm in the convictions you hold.

Now, I need to direct my next comments to the dads out there. (I’m sure “the girls” will have plenty of good advice for you moms).

So, Dad, this is one issue where you need to stand up and be your wife’s knight in shining armor. When those challenges and questions arise from family members, you must step up to the plate and allow your wife to hide behind you. You need to be the one delivering the answers (if possible).

For example, you might need to say, “Yes, Aunt Nellie, we are still homeschooling and we’ll keep doing it . . .”

You may even need to pull your aunt, parents, or in-laws aside and say, “When you say those things, you really discourage my wife. I know you don’t mean to, but you need to stop.”

That, my fellow Dad, is how you deal with negative family members.


Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. - Proverbs 22:6