Why aren't you dressed yet? What did you do to your sister? How
did you get peanut butter there? I ask my preschooler
many questions every day, but few of them are designed to help
me get to know my child on a more intimate level. My daughter delights
me and exasperates me and always leaves me wondering what is going
on in that amazing brain of hers. But as we rush and meet deadlines
and exist side-by-side, I often miss the opportunities to find
out about this beautiful creature that is my daughter.
The Pondering Preschooler is a book created to help
parents start amazing conversations with their children and discover
the wonderful thoughts they think. It is a small book, small enough
to fit in my purse, but it is full of fun and interesting questions.
Some are silly: "If you could get rid of one smell on earth, what
would it be?" Some are thoughtful: "What can you do to be a good
friend?" Some are practical: "If you were playing outside and the
ball rolled across the street, what would you do?" All of them
are engaging. I've loved every conversation that has developed
from these questions.
I pick out a question and savor it until the right moment when
we can stop and explore: driving in the car, sitting in the grass,
tucking into bed at night, etc. And I don't save them just for
my preschooler! My son is almost fourteen years old--almost a man.
His thoughts are his own now, and he is struggling with finding
the balance of communicating as a man and communicating with his
mama. Granted, not all of the questions are fitting for a teenage
son. I don't ask him if he can find something shaped like a triangle
in our house. But when I ask him what he would do if he could be
invisible for one hour, the conversation takes flight and I relish
There is room in the book to write answers after each question,
making this a treasured keepsake to share with children when they
are older. While I loved this book as a mom, I know that grandparents
could really enjoy it as well. It would even make great conversation
starters for teachers. If you know a child who is reluctant to
talk or an adult who feels awkward talking to children, this book
could make a perfect gift. I'm amazed that something so simple
can be so helpful. This is definitely $5 well spent.