The Often Forgotten Homeschool Dad
June 23, 2021
The Father’s Love
Father’s Day – For some Mamas, this is a painful day. Some of us do not have fathers. Some no longer have their husband with them. Yet, here it is again: that day. The focus is on fathers. For those Mamas who are blessed with a great husband who loves the Lord AND a Christ-like, loving father, you don’t even know. You should probably stop right now and praise the Lord for such a kindness He has bestowed on you and yours. And to you, I say, give those dads all the love you are privileged to share. Teach your children, too, how fortunate they are, and help them to understand the sacrifices that have been made for them by these men. Love them with all your heart. Real men in their lives who are models of Christ . . . true and faithful . . . such safety, a solid rock . . . respect and honor them every day, EVERY day.
Some of us have godly, loving husbands but no fathers. I fall into that camp. There has been much grief throughout my life, and even more when my dad finally left this Earth. Heartsick. Mighty pain. But as a young adult, I resolved one thing, and strongly: God in Heaven is my true Father. He is Who is real. Never will He leave me. He is my trusted comfort, my greatest caregiver, and I can lean on Him all of my days. For this Father’s Day, my children and I will shower Paul with love and gifts as we descend upon the Wuehlers’ house (Deborah is our Senior Editor and my best friend in the world) in what has become a tradition: We go to Colorado in June and have Father’s Day with both of our families, celebrating these wonderful Daddies. It’s an annual reminder of the kindness the Lord has given us ladies as well as our (combined) 15 children. Now that my son Levi lives in Denver, even he will be joining us for that glorious weekend, and one of Deb’s daughters will fly out from California to celebrate. DADS. It’s a real thing and it is beautiful.
Recognize the gifts, Mama. Praise the Lord for them. And lean on your true Father regardless of what this life has to offer. The ultimate sacrifice was our Father in Heaven sending His Son, Jesus Christ, to die in our place—to save us from a horrific eternal existence. He is the Perfect Father, and I find it awe-striking that He bent down and became our Father, too. Nothing can come close. What can possibly compare? And to you Mamas who will feel heartbreak (again) this Father’s Day, my own heart goes out to you, and I pray the Lord holds you tightly to Himself. Lean on Him, Mama. Look to your forever-home, because it will be glorious.
It will be Father’s Day every day.
“See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are.” 1 John 3:1
P.S. Here’s some Dad-themed encouragement for this time of the year from your friends at The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine.
Dads, Homeschooling and Higher Education: Dad as Teacher, Mentor, and Professor by Dr. Christopher A. Perrin
Dad-Conviction by Todd Wilson
The Dad’s Role in a Relaxed Homeschool Setting by Dr. Mary Hood
Raising Real Men
Homeschooling is a Family Affair
Once upon a time, surveys of homeschool families found that mothers provided the day-to-day instruction well over 90% of the time. Fathers tended to be sole breadwinners and away from home during school hours. So that division of responsibilities made sense; one study found only 3% of homeschool moms had full-time jobs outside the home.
Things have been changing, though. The rise of the “gig economy” and working from home made both work and family involvement more flexible, and just as more moms have their own outside work, more dads are finding opportunities to teach their kids. Mothers may still comprise the majority of homeschooling teachers, but not exclusively!
Even if Dad isn’t teaching, he has a critical role. Where we live in North Carolina, the state homeschooling law treats each family as a tiny private school. Every homeschool designates a “chief administrator” as well as the principal instructors. Most families we know assign that “administrator” role to Dad.
Practically speaking, we’ve found it helpful. Melanie is more in the trenches, making decisions about curricula and teaching, so Hal can offer more objectivity, serving as a sounding board or dealing with uncooperative students. And outside the home, Melanie has led local support groups, while Hal has worked long hours on legal and public relations issues with our state organization. Homeschooling is a family affair in which we all have roles!
We like to think of everything in terms of our “family mission,” or what our family is trying to accomplish. If we homeschool, somebody needs to teach. At the same time, the family needs income; so someone needs a paying job! When we started, that was Hal, but now we work together in our family business. Regardless, we recognize and honor both roles. We couldn’t homeschool without both the income and someone willing to do it for love alone!
We try to respect everyone’s contribution to our family mission – those who earn money or teach and our kids who take out the garbage, feed the dog, and do the other chores, too. We’re in this together!
Hal & Melanie
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Honor to the Homeschool Dad: Seven Days a Week
The homeschool dad is often forgotten and more often unappreciated. Just as much as you, dear homeschool mom, need constant support, the homeschool dad needs support, too! He needs more than a pat on the back on Father’s Day. He needs your support every day of the week.
Sunday: Appreciate his leadership. The weight of leadership is heavy, and although you partner with your husband in forming a Godly family, the final say-so presses on him. Thank him for serving in this sometimes thankless role.
Monday: Admire him as the father of your children. A father influences his children for life. Thank him for the moments when he strengthens his bond with his children.
Tuesday: Be grateful for the financial support he gives. Even if I get a part-time paycheck, I can tell my husband how grateful I am for all the hard work he does that results in our lifestyle.
Wednesday: Thank him for being there on good and bad days. I don’t know about you, but I am not “pretty” on the bad days, and I am “over the top” on good days. My man takes it all in with a smile or a listening ear. I can thank him for his loyal love.
Thursday: Adore him as your one and only. When homeschooling is all said and done, you will still be “his girl.” Let him know your desire is for him, and that he will always come before the children and all other things but God.
Friday: Encourage him to get together with some “Godly guys” and do the guy stuff that will help him grow as a man. Men need other men to challenge each other and support each other in their God-given roles.
Saturday: Plan a date night just for the two of you, no matter how busy you are!
My dear homeschool mom, your partner on this homeschool journey, needs you seven days a week. Your little scholars are watching and learning one of the most important life lessons: honor Dad.
Beth Mora, creator/teacher-on-camera for Here to Help Learning’s Homeschool Writing Program (grades 1-6) and homeschool conference and women’s events speaker, loves blog at Home to Home. She serves up HTHL’s Writing Tip of the Week for those teaching their kiddos to write. Everything she does, whether laughable or heart gripping, is done to honor One. God’s grace is the salve that has healed her own life and is what she offers liberally to others.
Pillar of Hope
Dan Beasley – The Future is Bright for Kids with Involved Dads
Every good dad wants their child to become a well-educated, well-adjusted, productive member of society. But homeschooling dads have a unique opportunity to contribute to these measures of success.
Research has consistently linked having an actively involved father to better outcomes on nearly every measure of child well-being, from cognitive development and educational achievement to self-esteem and pro-social behavior. It’s clear there is at least one thing dads can do to help improve their child’s future: be involved.
How a homeschool dad may be involved in homeschooling varies from household to household. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Whether it’s teaching daily, leading field trips, planning courses, or just spending regular time with all the children to give mom a break, a dad’s support and involvement in the homeschool contributes to a positive learning environment. So taking the time to figure out what being an involved dad looks like in your homeschool is worth the effort.
Disruption caused by the COVID-19 pandemic has no doubt created challenges but providing new opportunities for dads to get involved in homeschooling is no doubt a silver lining.
Happy Father’s Day to all my fellow homeschool dads. Keep striving to be involved.
As a HSLDA staff attorney, Dan Beasley assists individual homeschooling families and advocates for homeschool freedom in the courts, legislature, and court of public opinion. Dan is also a homeschool graduate and homeschooling dad of four. http://www.hslda.com/
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My younger son is ten, and while he was initially stuck on the idea we would be looking at “owl poop,” he quickly dove right in. The forceps are a perfect size for smaller hands, and he could use them to grab the smaller bones. I also grabbed an old safety pin to clean out the smaller bits of fur wrapped around some bones. This is a kit for just about anyone who enjoys digging for hidden treasures. Because there are drawings of the bones that are expected to be found, it was easy to hold the ones we did find to compare.
We dissected one of the three pellets, and it took us about half an hour once we got started to pull out all the largest pieces. This would be an excellent kit for a shorter hands-on science lesson to go with a food web, a bird, or a mammal study; however, it really can stand on its own without any additional lessons.
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An Ordinary Homeschool . . . With An Extraordinary God
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