The Single Homeschool Mom
May 4, 2022
Mercy Every Minute
Deborah Wuehler, TOS Senior Editor
Families who have been through various difficult hardships and are still homeschooling are some of my favorite heroes and examples of strong faith. Single homeschooling parents are no exception.
Is single-parent homeschooling possible? Yes, it is. Is it easy? Not typically. Yet, there are so many creative, dedicated, homeschooling dads and moms out there who are going it alone, and I am blown away by their conviction and commitment and creativity.
Are you a single-parent homeschooler? I applaud you! It is a tough road to follow. We do want to remind you that you are not alone: God is with you as you learn to be content with what you have. And, you don’t have to fear because He will help you! Hebrews 13:5,6 says it this way, “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as you have: for He has said, I will never leave you, nor forsake you; so that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”
I also love what Psalm 68:6 says, “God sets the solitary in families” and we are so glad He has placed you into our TOS family. We pray that you never feel alone in this endeavor, so please reach out and let us know how we can pray for you or help you in any way.
In the meantime, I hope these articles from The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine inspire you.
From Famine to Feast: How I Built My Writing, Editing and Coaching Business as a Single Homeschooling Mom by Mary Jo Tate
Reaching Beyond Our Family by Sheila Campbell
TEN Ways to Homeschool through Trials by Kerry Tittle
I encourage all of you to remember those single parents you know and ask the Lord, and ask them, how you can help. They will be eternally grateful!
“Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world” (James 1:27).
Single Mom, I Salute You
Right now, life doesn‘t seem like it could be any busier or fuller. Not only are we busy speaking at Homeschool Conventions just about every weekend . . . but I feel like my family demands so much with all the activities, attitudes, and PEOPLE!
It’s the joy of parenting . . . yeah. I can’t even imagine how difficult parenting would be if I had to do it by myself, let alone try to homeschool. In fact, I’ll suggest the idiom—‘busier than a one-armed paperhanger’ be replaced by—‘busier than a single parent homeschooler.’
If you’ve found yourself in this situation, my hat of admiration goes off to you. I know you don’t feel very admirable. After talking to many single parent homeschooling moms, I know that most of them feel like failures. I know you often get “great” advice that you’ve got too much on your plate, have no business homeschooling your children, or that your children NEED to be in school.
Well, let me just say that the Greek word for that kind of advice is BALONEY! Even as a single parent, you’re perfect for homeschooling your children. In fact, your children might even need you to homeschool more than in a two-parent home. I won’t even pretend to give you any advice, because you’re doing just fine without my wisdom. So, let me just say, “Keep on!”
Mom, if you’re not a single homeschooling mom but know of one . . . remember that she needs your help, not your advice. She needs you to babysit so she can gather her thoughts or go out for coffee to vent. She needs you to invite her children over to play, to pray for her, and to encourage her often.
About the author
Todd Wilson is a husband, dad, grandpa, writer, homeschool conference speaker, and former pastor. Todd’s humor and down to earth realness have made him a favorite speaker all across the country and a guest on Focus on the Family. As founder of The Familyman and The Smiling Homeschooler, his passion and mission are to remind moms and dads of what’s most important through weekly emails, podcasts, seminars, and books that encourage parents. Todd, and his wife Debbie, homeschool four of their eight children (the other four are homeschool graduates) in northern Indiana and travel America in the Familyman Mobile. You can read more at www.familymanweb.com.
The Road Worth Traveling “Alone”
You Are Not Alone
We recently asked for advice and encouragement for single homeschool moms on our Facebook page—and our sweet community answered the call.
There was one piece of advice that stood apart from the rest:
You may be single, but you are not alone.
Lean in, dear Momma, to the One who will never leave you nor forsake you (Deut. 31:6).
Have You Heard the Whispers?
It’s often the words of friends and family that hurt the most. Even well-meaning strangers seem to have an unsolicited opinion to share.
“Are you sure you can handle homeschooling by yourself? Maybe you should just send your kids to public school.”
Homeschooling as a single mom is not only possible, but it may also be the best gift you can give to your children.
Encouragement for the Single Homeschool Mom
There is no such thing as the “one right way” to homeschool.
Ignore the naysayers—and silence your own doubt-filled thoughts. You can do this!
Here are a few tips from our Homeschool Adventure Facebook page:
- You are equipped.
No one is better suited to teach your children than you. Rest assured, the One who called you will also equip you (Hebrews 13:20-21).
- You don’t have to replicate the classroom.
Not only is it unnecessary, but it’s not even ideal. Homeschooling provides perks that typical schools can’t offer. Enjoy that freedom and flexibility.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
You are operating within a different family dynamic. Avoid lamenting over your “blooper” reel while comparing it to another mom’s “highlight” reel.
- Ask for help when you need it.
Even in the best of circumstances, no one can do it all. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help.
- Take breaks.
Burning yourself out doesn’t benefit you or your children. Take time to recharge. Here are some tips for a day of rest.
- Don’t give up.
There will be hard days. That’s just life, and it happens to all of us—single or not. Pray without ceasing, and don’t give in to the whispers of the enemy.
Feel like you’re spinning too many plates—and one is about to fall? Try these time management strategies to help you regain a sense of calm and order.
P.S. Equip your students to write skillfully, think critically, and speak clearly as they explore the history of ideas—from a biblical worldview—with Philosophy Adventure
About the author
Surprised by Jesus, Stacy went from an unmarried, childless, 30-something career woman to a Christ-following wife of more than twenty-eight years with two sons she homeschooled K-12. She battled fear and overwhelm, but survived and thrived. Author of more than ten books—including the award-winning Philosophy Adventure—she loves to equip and encourage homeschool families. Visit her at HomeschoolAdventure.com
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Maximize your time and achieve your priorities. These strategies work because they’re realistic—no “Super Mom” superpowers needed. https://homeschooladventure.com/op/5-time-management-strategies-for-homeschool-moms/
Pillar of Faith
Diane Heeney – Single Mama Homeschooling Tips
On behalf of our single mama daughter, I borrowed from some friends’ brains to get tips for homeschooling our grandson. Want to listen in?
- Wait. If your child isn’t ready, don’t push it. Enjoy your freedom! If he or she is asking about letters and numbers, absolutely take their lead.
- Learn the legal guidelines for your state.
- Determine your child’s learning style. It may be different than yours!
- Remember that school can happen at night, weekends, afternoons—whatever works for your schedule!
- Use teachable moments—sort socks by size and color, have scavenger hunts as you shop or travel, or cook together.
- Demonstrate a love for learning, by example—do Mom-School alongside your child!
- Make reading time together a priority, and trips to the library an occasion!
- Use the help you have—grandparents, siblings, co-ops, or church friends for play groups/classes.
- Make use of good learning games and toys, and trustworthy educational websites like Reading Eggs, Sheppard Software, and Always Ice Cream. No shame! Do what works!
- Make your home conducive to learning—lots of books, great music, plenty of art supplies, outdoor exploring, and time to explore passions.
About the author
Diane Heeney is a graduate of Bob Jones University, where she served on faculty for ten years. She has been Assistant to the Director of Advertising Sales at The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine since 2016. She’s homeschooled her three children over the course of the past 18 years, having graduated their two oldest. Diane, her husband Patrick, and their youngest child, Katie, reside in eastern Wyoming.
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